Losing a pet...How to support someone through loss and grief...

Adonis Maglis
Jan 8
2 min read

Updated: Oct 29

🐾 Navigating Grief After Losing a Pet

#Grief from losing a #pet can be incredibly difficult—not just for the #petowner, but also for those who want to support them. Pets come into our lives in different ways and at different times, but they often become deeply bonded companions for a decade or more. Their absence leaves a profound void.

I’ve been fortunate to share my life with dogs since childhood. These reflections come from personal experience and may offer comfort to you or someone you care about.

💔 Acknowledge the Loss

We often worry about saying the wrong thing, but silence can feel even more painful. Mentioning their #pet won’t remind them of the loss—they’re already thinking about it constantly. A simple acknowledgment of how hard daily routines must be without their beloved companion can mean the world.

🤝 Ways to Offer Support

Grief is heavy, and even small gestures can help lighten the load:

☕ Offer to grab a coffee or lunch
🚶 Invite them for a walk to escape familiar surroundings
📱 Check in virtually, especially during the first few weeks
🗣️ If unsure, ask: “How can I support you?”

🧠 Respect the Individual Journey

No two grief experiences are alike. Even if you’ve lost a pet yourself, avoid comparisons. Refrain from clichés like “time will heal” or “they’ve crossed the rainbow bridge”—these can feel dismissive.

Grief often intensifies over time. It took me six years after losing my poodle before I could even consider another dog. For many, losing a pet is as devastating as losing a person—sometimes even more so.

🗨️ Choose Words with Care

Instead of asking “How are you?” or “How was your weekend?”, try:

“How has the transition been without your pet?”
“Would you like some company or a chat?”

Grief amplifies everything, including well-meaning phrases that may come across as insensitive.

🏠 Understand the Daily Impact

Sleeping, waking, showering, and getting dressed can feel monumental when there’s no longer a best friend to walk, feed, talk to, or cuddle. If they’re also caring for children or elderly parents, the emotional toll is even greater. Their entire circle may be grieving too.